Surrogacy is one of the several options for couples who have a difficulty getting pregnant to grow
their families. If you’re one of the many considering surrogacy, the first step is to do your due
diligence in knowing the pros and cons. There will always be challenges along the way in whatever
pursuit in life. It would be best to know what you are subjecting yourself into.
In 2011, the total surrogacy cases reached 35,000. Today, it is reported that 9 children are born in
every state of the US every year thru surrogacy. So yes, it confirms your doubts if anyone has ever
tried it. To take you on your journey further, here are 5 things you might not know about surrogacy
which you should.
Surrogacy is quite expensive due to the fact that it deals with two lives, the baby and the
surrogate. It is important that before you go and dip your toes into it, to know what expenses to
expect. In the US, it can cost anywhere between $60,000 to $170,000.
Spotting Red flags. Research about IVF clinics in your area, visit the ones that take your interests
and narrow it down to one. It is important that you maintain open communication with them as they
will be able to see any red flags, be it with your chosen surrogate, the surrogacy agency or the egg
This is a very emotional time for both intended parents and the surrogate so it is
important to have someone keep the best interests of both parties. You should be able to:
Choose an egg donor whose health profile is excellent. She should be healthy and between the
ages of 21 and 29. After selecting her, she will be subjected to psychological testing to assure best
Choose a surrogate, one you trust or one that comes highly recommended, and should be
between the ages 21-41 years. There are surrogates who have done it more than once and are
experienced in the surrogacy process. Also make sure to know if she has insurance to consider
Choose a surrogacy agency to assist you with the stressful process of tackling the legal and
psychological side. They will also be able to assist in finding a gestational surrogate. Mediation can
be needed and it would be highly recommended especially if this is your first time. You will also be
assigned legal representation to ensure that both parties’ rights are protected.
Pregnancy is a very challenging and rewarding period. In the 9 months, after a successful
implantation, it will be an emotional time for your surrogate. Make sure to offer support as much as
you can and as much as your surrogate needs it. Ask what would make it a more meaningful journey for both surrogate and intended parents.
During the pregnancy, you will need to do a pre-birth order to determine the
necessary steps involved for you to be recognized as the legal parent. This often depends on the
laws governing your state. Some states already offer a "declaration of parentage" before birth while
some states still ask intended parents to follow adoption procedures after birth. Seek legal counsel
when considering your birth plans.
There’s a lot of legalities involving surrogacy, as it is a process that involves life. It is not like
picking a dog out from a kennel because this will be your child you’re considering to have. Before
deciding to move forward, it is very important to know if you are financially, emotionally and
psychologically ready. Some decisions can be made thru emotions but this one demands a head
over your heart.
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