Thursday, August 26, 2010

Another day..

SO yesterday, my husband and I picked Eric up from school, and we decided we wanted to talk to the teacher, because when he comes home, we ask, "What did you do in school today?" or "Do you have homework?" and the only answer we get is, "I don't know"..... Seriously? You were there! I wouldn't care if he said that once in a while, but he says he doesn't know ALL THE TIME! So, I wanted to see if its possible to get something at the end of the day saying what went on in class that day, what they learned or went over, and also what the homework was... Soon as we walk in there (we were a few min late, on purpose), she says, "He doesn't pay attention. He doesn't do work. He just sits there. Only way he will do work is if I am there with him helping him." I knew it! He did this last year in Kindergarten. He is in 1st grade, and thats not gonna fly. He has to do work. He has an IEP and he receives special services (speech, etc), and the teacher plans on talking to those providers to see what they can come up with. I think he needs to be in a smaller class, or have an aid in class with him.. He needs one on one time. I do not want him falling behind and not being able to pass 1st grade because of this. I love his teacher, she is trying to cater to his needs the best she can, which is awesome - a lot of teachers wont do this, so I wonder if she has personal experience with special needs children. 

Eric just.... Ugh, I don't even know how to explain it. I just want him to do well, and I do not want him to fall behind and get left behind... So, hopefully, we can figure something out to help him stay in the class, and get him to actually do his work and not just sit and stare into space...... I wonder if I acted like this in school? Hmmm.. Maybe I should talk to my mom and find out. 

Anyways.. Moving on... 

I went to Urgent Care yesterday. I have been sick, and my tummy just wasn't settling down.. So while I was there I told her about the pain in the back of my calf... She asked how long, when, etc - normal questions doctors ask... She wanted to check to make sure it wasn't a blood clot. So I had to go get an ultrasound done, no blood clot. So, maybe the pain is just in the muscle? Who knows. I gotta make an appointment with my doctor to follow up...



Back to Eric. My mind is always racing back to him... Does anyone have any suggestions? He has ADHD, and takes Adderoll in the morning, keeps him calm and supposed to help him focus.. And then at 5pm he takes Tenex and another one that I swear I cannot spell (mirtazapine?) idk.. Helps him calm down and relax and go to bed... He doesn't get enough sleep at night, no matter how early he may go to bed, he is always tired in the morning... I don't know if its the meds, or if hes having nightmares (or night terrors)... I don't know...  
What can I do to help him focus? What can I do to help him do well in school? Also, a lot of the times he doesn't want to do his homework... I'm just confused as to what to do....

I feel like I am at a loss here... 

Any thoughts? Comments?

7 comments:

  1. Your newest follower from MBC. Idk? I can only ask questions like have u tried maybe changing his diet, or different meds? Or maybe he wants more attention from you or his father, or how is his schedule? Is he in any after school activities that will either help him with his studies or tire him out enough to make him sleep more therefor hopefully pay attention more in school? Idk, good luck!

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  2. Your newest follower from MBC. Idk? I can only ask questions like have u tried maybe changing his diet, or different meds? Or maybe he wants more attention from you or his father, or how is his schedule? Is he in any after school activities that will either help him with his studies or tire him out enough to make him sleep more therefor hopefully pay attention more in school? Idk, good luck!

    Come check me out when u get the chance,

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  3. Well, his "diet" is something all of us should adapt to.. LOL Hes a very picky eater, so if he doesnt like what we eat for dinner, he will get a pb&j, grilled cheese, or a cheesey (tortilla with cheese, melted)... LOL. sometimes cereal. He loves fruits, and we have been eating more lately.. Veggies is a no go for him. So i try to get veggies in him when I can, hidden in juices like the new Motts juice, or veggie trays - he will eat celery and carrots dipped in ranch lol.

    His schedule right now, is after school, he comes home, does homework.. if he is tired he can take a nap. We live in AZ - its way too hot to play outside right now. So when it cools down, hopefully sometime next month- he will go outside more.
    I do have him enrolled in daycare, and he will start going next week. But that will be for only about an hour or so after school.
    I do want to make an appt and talk with the doctor about the meds. Theres an appointment coming up, but may see about getting one sooner....


    Will update.
    And thanks for the comment and follow.

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  4. I am your newest follower. Sorry to hear your having such a hard time with your son. It's so hard to know what to do and you care so much as a mom!
    I had a nephew who was ADHD and they finally figured out he was on way to many medications. They were overdosing him and he was really zoned out all the time and didn't care about life.
    Also Red dye 40 which is in pretty much all processed foods that are red (even strawberry yogurt!) in known to make ADHD worse. I would look through what your feeding him and cut out anything with Red 40 in it.
    Does he have good friends or any special interests? Getting him involved in something he loves may help.
    Good luck!!

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  5. Hmm.. I have heard about the red dye.. We don't yougurt too often. If we do, its like GoGurt, or Dannon (or danonino ?sp), but we usually dont get red ones anymore. He likes the blue and green ones.. Lol...

    Ive tried him without medications... its horrible. I literally cannot stand it, he will stay up all day, and then all night, and all day again.. he doesnt sleep!!!! Hes constantly on the go.. And I know people always say "Hes being a boy" or "hes a kid" its much much more than just that... With the meds he is not tuned out, or unfocused, hes actually quite brilliant, and funny, and can have a good conversations with... But without, I go to bed crying at night... It was a like a miracle when we got him on the medicine. we had to wait till he was 4 (or 5 maybe). and we tried different meds, different dosages... What hes on works well -for the most part...


    Ugh.. im just frustrated. I think all parents get this way, its out of love and care for their child...

    I will keep an update on him though.. And I pray he grows out of this!

    And thanks for the follow!

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  6. Hi,

    Its hard as a parent to find the right way to reach your child when it comes to school. Definitly have a talk with his doctor and maybe a social group of parents that have kids with ADHD. Maybe they can also give you some pointers.

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  7. Hi,

    Its hard as a parent to find the right way to reach your child when it comes to school. Definitly have a talk with his doctor and maybe a social group of parents that have kids with ADHD. Maybe they can also give you some pointers.

    Im following you back from the Mom Blogger Club

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